You are creating your experiences, your success, the quality of your relationships, and your health by your thoughts and beliefs (beliefs are no more than thoughts you have conditioned yourself to think over and over), the visual images you focus on (internally and externally), the resulting emotions they create, and your actions: you have total control over all three of these.
Personal responsibility is the key attitude for personal empowerment. It is to your full advantage to assume full responsibility for the circumstances of your life as well as your reactions to these circumstances.
Therefore, without self-judgment or self-blame, you can focus your attention on understanding yourself and the range of choices available today in any given circumstance. With this awareness you can make educated, intentional choices.
When your choices do not result in you getting things the way you thought you wanted them, you can look to understand what happened and what action you can take next, rather than looking for someone or some circumstance to blame.
- You can blame the event (E) for your lack of results (O). In other words, you can blame the economy, the weather, gender bias, your spouse, your boss, your co-workers and so on. For every reason why something is not possible; there are hundreds of other people who have faced the same circumstances and succeeded.
- You can instead simply change your responses (R) to the events (E), the way things are, until you get the outcomes (O) you want. You can change your thinking, change your communication, change the pictures you hold in your head and you can change your behavior. You can break out of your conditioned responses to circumstances, increase your awareness and change your actions. All this leads to a new outcome.